Monday, December 31, 2007
New Year's Eve...
1) Lose weight ( I decided that last year too - and have put on half a stone since then...)
2) Get fit again. ( With a specific goal in mind)
3) Reach Level 70 on World of Warcraft. ( Decide what to do then once the new expansion comes out)
4) Investigate becoming a Cancer Voice. ( The only C - related resolution )
and finally
5) Take and post a self-portrait every day for a year. ( Sosij has been my inspiration for this)
There are others - but they're just for me.
Sunday, December 30, 2007
Pre New year Post
But it's also the time of year - one year ends and another begins etc - I sort of feel stuck in the middle at the moment. For me a lot of 2007 has felt sluggish ( I may name it Year of the Slug..) while I recovered healthwise - and that was right, I needed that time. But now I need to get on, to push myself a bit.
But it was also the year I lost my mum and that still hurts a lot.
Friday, December 28, 2007
Post Christmas Post
Christmas began with J's party last Friday. A great night with much alcohol consumed - and the Most Awful Hangover the next morning when I drove 300 miles to spend a lovely Christmas with my brother A and his family - Christmas Day is definitely better with small children around! We also popped over to Bristol to see the rest of the family. ( Mum was there in spirit I'm sure...).
Then I drove back up home on Boxing Day to meet J for our own Christmas which was wonderful. The last one in this house too...
And now - Alfie is out of the kennels - I've another week off work and - I've come down with a really sore throat cough and cold! Still feeling horrible today and so I'm staying in instead of going out to see friends as I'd hoped. Ah well - it's probably just nature's way of telling me I need a rest!
At least the telly's good...
Saturday, December 15, 2007
Merry Christmas and a happy healthy new year!!
xx
Friday, December 14, 2007
Party Animal
Sunday, December 09, 2007
Made It!
On Saturday I got the train to London ( sad to see the end of GNER) so I could see one of my favourite bands The Mountain Goats play live at the Union Chapel in Islington. They were superb! And best of all they played "I'm going to make it through this year", the song that has been one of the anthems of my illness - and on the second anniversary of being told I had cancer too.
I thought about me and J in that little room with my consultant. Not sure how I feel about that now - it's like it's a dream I had once.
I left the hotel fairly early on Sunday morning and now I'm home again and contemplating my week to come :(
Sunday, December 02, 2007
Saturday, December 01, 2007
Another Anniversary!
Just back from an overnight trip to Doncaster to see R&C - the Christmas Present exchange as they'll be away in Spain then. Lovely to see them.
Hopefully J over later ( another reading tomorrow night - that's four this week!) but in the meantime I'd better do some Christmas planning...
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
Among The Stars
The trick is to make it look easy...
Sunday, November 25, 2007
Saturday, November 24, 2007
Saturday Afternoon...
Feeling pretty good healthwise but not looking forward to the next four weeks - loads of travelling with work. ( and a few Christmas parties... - ed) Monday is London and then back Tuesday for J's first two poetry launch events.
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Routine
As I say, all very routine.
But I still burst into tears in the car afterwards.
Saturday, November 17, 2007
Weeping For The Lovely Phantoms
J's poetry collection is finally published!
One of the dedications reads: " In Memory of Jean Stacey 1938 - 2007 "
My mum.
Friday, November 09, 2007
Is it Friday Yet..?
Another very long week workwise - but not without its pleasures. I'm very glad to be home though - and so is Alfie. J is coming over tonight - for the whole weekend! We need to get her poetry videos finalised.
My tummy has been much better this week - maybe just a bit more exercise and sensible eating (and drinking) has helped?
Oh - and my offer on the house in Darlington has been accepted! ( Now all you need to do is sell yours - ed) I can't wait to show you all - but for the time being, I'm far too superstitious...
Wednesday, November 07, 2007
Making Connections
Not sure how one celebrates such things...
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Monday, November 05, 2007
Where is the time going?
On Sunday we went to look at another house in Darlington - in the same street as the one I really like. It was nice but not AS nice. I think it may just be time to put an offer in and see what happens...
My tummy is still a bit sore but I may have got to the er... bottom of it (enough! - ed) - typically not from a doctor. I had my massage last week with The Other J and she thinks that it's just that my tummy muscles have become so weak that my pelvis is tilting forward and putting extra pressure. It makes sense to me - and apparently a similar thing happens in pregnancy. So - lots of gentle tummy exercise for me and we'll see what happens.
Thursday, November 01, 2007
Frantic
But - I'm OK. My tummy seems to have eased the last few days - it's almost like the running around helps it. As long as I keep the bags light and the eating regular. and er..follow medical advice.. ;)
More at the weekend I hope.
Sunday, October 28, 2007
Sorting
O & A and I had a nice night in the pub on Saturday talking a bit about the future and mum's house ( which we now own) and a lot about the past - but all in a very relaxed way. It was a good night.
The clearing today was hard ( mostly clothes and papers) but we kept each other going and by mid afternoon we'd done enough to be satisfied. We also turned up some fascinating family stuff - like my great uncle's First War call up papers - and SO many photographs that O's new scanner may burn out!
( Go on - tell them that as a result of all the family tree investigations everyone's pretty sure you were the first member of your whole family to ever go to university - ed)
My tummy is still very sore - the tablets that the doc gave me have just upset it without really helping with the discomfort. Not sure what to do about that. It won't stop me travelling away with work this week but it won't make it easy.
Oh - and the shortlist of two possible houses for me has halved as a result of J and I having another look on Friday evening. But more on that in due course...
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
Doctor
Sunday, October 21, 2007
Finbar...
Healthwise I thought I had another bout of flu coming on on Friday night but a long sleep seemed to sort it. I also have quite a lot of soreness in my tummy at the moment - like I've pulled a muscle or something? But it's not the hernia as such. Am going to try to take it easy this week - I don't need to be away.
( So far - ed)
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
Unlucky for some...
Sunday, October 14, 2007
Do Ya Wanna Touch...
But the week had a number of highlights, not least of all, a briliant gig by Mary Gauthier on Tuesday - but also my first full session at the gym in eighteeen months. I was a bit sore afterwards, but all manageable.
And then of course there's my new toy...
(Of course, when you get your new house, all this will have to stop - ed)
Sunday, October 07, 2007
Kith and Kin
Well I suppose it's fairly obvious in psychological terms I suppose. Mother dies and sons, one by one, catch the Family Tree bug. The great thing is that my brother O has made contact with various branches of the family who have all done work on this and there's a story that already goes back to 1700.
This picture is from about 1910 and the youg woman in the back row far left is my grandmother Dorothy.
Meanwhile back in the present - I've just about recovered from my flu now and am settling down to a quiet Sunday at home. It's been gloriously sunny the last few days - today it's misty and dull.
Thursday, October 04, 2007
Tuesday, October 02, 2007
Early to bed and...
I felt fine when I got up on Monday morning but by the time I got to my first meeting in Coventry I felt grim. I tried sleeping it off last night but even 10 hours of solid sleep didn't sort it. So this morning I've got the train home and will call it quits for the day. They can manage without me.
(Of course you don't actually believe that - ed)
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Sunday, September 30, 2007
Work Hard Play Hard
I am away for a two days tomorrow - but then ( touch wood) I'm home for about 10 days.
But the week hasn't all been work. On Monday night my friend C and I went to see The Alabama Three in Newcastle. A brilliant gig - they are so good live!
And on Friday I went down to J's ( looked at another house - and one on Saturday too - still nothing to really beat the one we saw last week though) and had a really nice meal with her daughter B and B's boyfriend S. B was here to pick up my old car from me - which she did on Saturday. I was sorry to see it go - but I know it's in good hands - and I do have the new one...
And today the sun is shining! Am going to pay a few bills online and then take Alfie out for a long walk.
Sunday, September 23, 2007
The First Day of Autumn
Updates - health. Good - am about to start back at the gym this afternoon ( another indoor pursuit for the autumn). I thought I'd poppped my hernia again on Tuesday this week, reaching down to pick up something off the floor of the train, but it just ached for a few hours and all was well. Phew!
House buying/selling: OK. One couple round to look at mine last week - hard to tell if they were interested really. But that's part of the game isn't it? J and I looked at a lovely house in Darlington on Friday night - and I'm very tempted - but I know I need to look at more than the two I've looked at so far!
Work: Feeling inexorable at the moment. It's symptomatic that I am really excited to discover that in mid-October I may have a whole week when I don't have to be away! Alfie will be pleased.
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Pirate
(And its owner -ed)
Sunday, September 16, 2007
London Boys
Thursday, September 13, 2007
Getting It On
Apart from that, I'm going to look at a house in Darlington on Friday and on Saturday my brother O and I are meeting up in London to reminisce. Strangely we can't get anyone else to come with us...
Sunday, September 09, 2007
Another Sunday Morning Posting
I've been so busy that I've hardly had any time to go out in the new car at all. And the house is now up for sale so I suppose I'd better start looking for a new one eh?
Still feeling remarkable healthy - it must be all that Lake District and Cornwall air!
Wednesday, September 05, 2007
Back to work....
I've got the estate agent coming round later. I've decided to put my house on the market. I feel it's time for a move. Not sure where yet. Durham City or Darlington probably.
Oh - and because someway this blog is supposed to be about my health - don't worry, I'm eating well, drinking no alcohol and sleeping like a log. Even my tummy is behaving ityself!
Sunday, September 02, 2007
Time and Tide
This is the video that was too big to post while I was away. Taken from the flat in Cornwall. ( You need to watch it to the end - ed).
Dedicated to my friend D who was watching the same moon eclipse from Kentucky. Not sure if hers was a Blue one...
Sunday Morning Coming Down
I'm just spending Sunday quietly - I'll just take Alfie out for a walk later. Working from home tomorrow so will try to ease myself in. And I'm picking up the new car in the evening!
Thursday, August 30, 2007
Chilling
I feel really relaxed after this holiday - and a lot fitter - in spite of all the eating!
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
Wednesday
I'm having a lovely relaxing time here - long hot sunny days - gentle walks - and big dinners! Off to see my friend G in a while - leaving Alfie Home Alone in the flat. I've left Morrissey on the stereo for him - that should keep him subdued...
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( Editor's Note: Actually Alfie howled the place down on discovering he was to be left. So he joined us for the day...)
Sunday, August 26, 2007
Cornwall Calling
Thursday, August 23, 2007
Wednesday, August 22, 2007
Looking Back...
A few days at home now and then on Friday Alfie and I are going down to mum and G's flat in Cornwall for the last week of my holiday. Some readers may recall that I went there last year and had a great time in spite of chemo and bag. I feel so much better this year. The flat will make me think of mum ( but doesn't everything ? - ed) but she was so happy there that I think I'll be smiling. Mostly.
Saturday, August 18, 2007
If the boot fits....
I really did too much yesterday. Two 7 mile walks on the fells ( one of them with 1700 feet of ascent - and of course, descent...) was pushing it. Today I ache all over - but, reassuringly, not on any of my operation sites - I just did too much.
But one thing I did realise yesterday was that I needed to replace my boots. They've done good service but really dug into my heels and hurt the balls of my feet when I was out yesterday. (No blisters, thank goodness.)
So today I drove out in the rain to Glenridding ( Alfie groaning that we might be having to climb another ridge...) and limped into Catstycam where they were incredibly helpful and spent a good hour finding exactly the right boots for my very wide feet.
So - I'm spending the rest of the day at the hotel taking it easy ( a nice bottle of wine beckons this evening I think... ) and tomorrow I'll give the new boots a gentle tryout.
Thursday, August 16, 2007
One Man and His Dog
Back Tuesday.
Tuesday, August 14, 2007
One Man and His Car
I finally did it! After nearly a year of humming and hahing about it, I ordered a new Vauxhall Meriva today. I'll pick it up at the beginning of September. Plenty of boot space for Alfie...
Monday, August 13, 2007
All Clear
But that's for later in the week.
Now I'm going for a nap....
Sunday, August 12, 2007
The 'Fleet's in...
Yes - it's that time again. I've got my first post op routine colonoscopy tomorrow so I'm staying close to home today. Need to be fleet of foot.... (Stop it! - ed)
It's not a good way to start the first week of my holiday but it has to be done. J is going to come in with me. Of course, I'm concerned about it but I'm still so raw from mum's death that it's hard to tell what's what emotionally.
Saturday, August 11, 2007
Tribute
Whilst this is probably the saddest time I have ever known in my life, I felt compelled to stand up and say something today. Perhaps I should have just let this very sad day wash over me but I can feel mum behind me saying – ‘Go on, it will be OK.’ I’ll do my best to keep it together.
Today I want to pay tribute to the kindest, warmest, most loving person that I will ever know.
I’m very proud of my mum. I get all my best qualities from her. She touched the hearts of so many people. She believed that you should be good and kind and generous and look after one another. She believed that you should see the best in people and she reached out to everybody in the same way, with love, humanity, compassion and boundless energy.
Her faith was devout and strong and she knew that she was here to be a channel of God’s love on earth. Like her, I have an unshakable faith that she is in a much better place now. I feel sure that they will get Radio 4 there! She would have wanted her funeral to be in this church where she attended the 8 o’clock service until she was too ill to come. She still had communion at home right up to the end of her life. This church was also where mum and George got married and the photo in the Order of Service is from that very happy and special day in her life. We are very grateful to Walter for taking the service today as he did on that day too.
My mum could have had a simple straightforward life but that was not her way. She would not have been so strong in her faith and so loving a person if she had not seen life’s difficulties. Her life was a lesson in overcoming adversity and proving that, if you kept on believing and loving, you could have a happy ending. She knew this herself too – there’s a notice in her study which reads – ‘you’re never too old to have a happy childhood.’ Mum’s father died before she was born and her mother sadly passed away when she was a young girl. Mum was a fiercely proud woman and she would not want me to talk publicly about the traumas of her personal life but suffice to say her faith and her immense strength of character saw her through the darkest of times.
Her choice of careers reflected her personality. At first she was a nurse in Salisbury. After she’d raised us three boys, she went back to college and qualified as a teacher. Never wanting to take the easy road, she taught in a pretty difficult school – it’s a bit disconcerting when your mum comes home and says she was threatened with a knife today. In the end she taught at Frenchay and combined both careers as a teacher at the Hospital School. She was very happy there and really felt that she had made a difference to those young lives albeit for a sometimes short and traumatic time. She took a well-deserved early retirement at 50.
I’m glad she did, because it allowed her to indulge her new career of keeping in touch with people. It’s as though it became her new job to spread warmth, love and happiness. Only two days before she died she was still furiously scribbling letters to people. She was happy to use email, but she knew how good it was to receive a real letter. So many people I have spoken to have said – ‘but I was only on the phone to her last week’ or ‘I’ve just got a letter from her’ or ‘we called in last week’.
We often wondered why she would never rest and was always worrying and planning things. We used to tell her to relax but I think she knew she didn’t have long on this earth and she had to cram a lot in. One of the few joys at this difficult time has been realising just how many close friends she had – these were not just casual acquaintances, these were people who loved her deeply.
When I think of my mum, I think of the sacrifices she made when we were growing up. I remember odd things like her sleeping in the dining room at Filton Road so that we could each have a bedroom. When one son plays the guitar, the other the drums and the other is in to amateur radio, that’s probably a good idea anyway! She carted my drums to band practices in that old Morris Minor of hers without complaint. I’m sorry I never made it as a rock star mum, but there’s still time!
Her sacrifices were a lot to do with her desperately wanting us all to have a good education and I guess she was very proud of the way we all turned out. There was a section in her filing cabinet called ‘Famous Sons’ and it contained various snippets like newspaper cuttings. She would say to me – that’s a nice picture dear but I wish you wouldn’t have that spiky hair.
Most of all though, when I think of my mum I smile to myself. I think of the great times she had with her boating friends in Bristol after the three of us left home – driving around in her bright green Triumph Spitfire. All those powerboat parties! I think of her meeting George again after all those years. What a fantastic story that is! I think of their happy times together in their ten years of marriage, whether it was travelling the length and breadth of Britain on their narrow boat or holidays to far-flung places or doing housesitting for people or pottering about in the garden. More recently, the flat in Cornwall was somewhere beautiful for them to visit and relax. She doted on her grandsons, Nattie and Ben. She loved those boys in a joyful, wide-eyed way that only a grandmother can. She was never happier than when she was playing with them. I’ll never forget her excitement at seeing a photo of Nat in his new school uniform for the first time a few weeks ago.
I think of her funny little ways – furiously circling things in the Radio Times that she wanted to watch or tape (but I don’t watch much television dear): her owl collection that Nattie like to rearrange for Grandma: the radio tuned to Radio 4 morning noon and night; eating cold chips from the fridge the morning after (a bad habit I have inherited). As I said, she would insist on seeing the best in the most difficult of people – something that used to infuriate me at times – but she was right and I was wrong.
The music today is something that we particularly shared mum would have wanted. There is no way that mum would have chosen any gloomy hymns – Lord of the Dance is mum to a tee – it sums up her faith and her approach to life. I first saw The Seekers in pantomime at Bristol Hippodrome when I was five. Apparently I was captivated by Judith Durham and her voice. Mum and I saw them at the NEC on their reunion tour. The two of us also watched Judith at the Hippodrome a few years ago from almost exactly the same seats as we had 40 years earlier. The song Colours of my Life reflects, for me, her life. They sing about shedding black and grey to take on red and blue and that is a perfect metaphor for her 69 years on this planet.
Shores of Avalon, at the end of the service, is quite poignant. When mum was in hospital at the end of June, she asked me to buy her a novel from the hospital shop – something light dear, not a thriller. She got most of the way through this Josephine Cox book, but it wasn’t until after she died that I realised that it was titled Journey’s End. I felt awful but then realised that perhaps it was just meant to be. I chose Shores of Avalon because it’s a beautiful song and then afterwards I realised that the last line of the song also talks of the journey’s end – but a journey’s end together.
I try not to think too much about her last couple of days, but how she dealt with her illness summed up her character. The last year since her diagnosis was very difficult. She showed such courage despite the agonies that come with a cancer in your spine and she rarely complained. She was still the same person – always warm and loving and anxious to know your news. During this time, George worked ceaselessly to look after her and make her comfortable. Nobody could have done more and loved her more than you George and I want to thank you publicly for that. Even when she was in hospital, one couldn’t suppress her zest for life. On the bedside table there was a card from Walter thanking her for her recent £100 donation to the African village with which this church has a connection. Even twelve hours before she died, she was getting me to introduce her to the woman in the opposite bed and apologising that she wasn’t well enough to have a chat. She was looking forward to visits from Nattie, from my Goddaughter Lucy and from Grace her latest adopted grandchild.
After mum died, we came back to the house. I went into the garden and there were hundreds of butterflies everywhere. Despite being in floods of tears, I knew that she was very close. Later on, Simon and Andy mentioned that they had noticed the same thing even though they were in a different part of the garden. A few days later I watched a video of her sitting in the garden chatting away to Simon and it helped to erase the memory of her last hours. Seeing her chatting away, worrying about whether I was going to get to Wembley to watch Rovers, cheered me up immensely and I felt I’d got my mum back.
That’s all I wanted to say. I really do hope that in these few words I have done justice to this wonderful, vibrant and caring woman. I am so proud to be her son. She was my inspiration and my guide and I have so much to thank her for. I loved her more than anybody could ever know.
Saturday, July 28, 2007
Jean
We are all devastated. But also amazed - how could one person have so many close friends?
If any of those friends who knew her would like to get in touch with me off line then I can give you details of the arrangements for her funeral.
If any one would like to make a donation in her memory, then it would be wonderful if you were to make a contribution to either:
Cancer Research UK
or
The Macmillan Renton Appeal for Herefordshire
I'll be back here again when I can
Simon
Sunday, July 22, 2007
Exhibition Down, Exhibition Up...
A quiet weekend at home - getting ready for another hard week at work. ( Three weeks till I'm on holiday!) A nice Skype call with friend D in the States yesterday.
( Oh - and talking of the States, I suppose I really need to be thinking about who I hand over the reins of power to on August 13th...)
Haven't started at the gym yet - tummy still a bit sore. I think I'll wait until I see the doc in three weeks.
Tuesday, July 17, 2007
Headed Home...
It's been a good test of my fitness too - loads of walking at the festival itself and on the beach. ( Chickened out of swimming though!) I definitely feel fitter and maybe even slightly more toned.
I think now is the time to start getting myself properly fit.
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Wednesday, July 11, 2007
Zeds
And I'm SO tired! I was in bed and asleep by ten last night and I think it'll be the same in the hotel tonight. I think it's just with having to do longer hours to make up for my days off this and next week - and I had an early start this morning. ( Slept on the train...)
Apart from that I'm.......zzzzzzzzzzz
Sunday, July 08, 2007
Raced For For Life ...
Well - S and A did it! On behalf of their investors, I can provide the evidence.
Alfie and I went to cheer them on - in the sunshine for once.
And it was very moving to see who they were running for....
(Thanks and well done! x)
Saturday, July 07, 2007
The Good Life
Of course I should be dieting really. Yesterday I had two meals out! At lunchtime I went to meet some former colleagues ( to catch up on professional gossip..) at Cafe Lilli in Norton and last night saw friend C for a great meal at As You Like It in Newcastle. Both places highly recommended.
( so - your tummy's OK then..? - ed)
Thursday, July 05, 2007
Brothers
Monday, July 02, 2007
Commuting
We had a lovely birthday time with my mum over the weekend but she is really not well at the moment and G is on call for her 24/7.
J and I met up briefly in London on Saturday to see Lou Reed (who was superb) - really lovely to see her. We're both looking forward to a longer break together in a fortnight.
I'm commuting into Birmingham today and Tuesday and driving back home on Wednesday morning. It's meaning long days but at least I get to see something of mum and G inthe evenings.
Healthwise I'm OK. My tummy is still a bit upset and I tripped in the street today which jarred my hernia site. No damage done but I'll be glad of hot bath when I get in tonight!
More when I'm home.
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Sunday, June 24, 2007
Reading
On the other hand, I've just finished reading my first proper book since I discovered I had cancer more than eighteeen months ago. It's been so frustrating continuing to see or hear about all these amazing books, buying them and then watching them pile up unread or partially read just because I couldn't concentrate on them. ( Physical or psychological? - I'm really not sure)
But this week, I did it. So thankyou Lionel Shriver for your amazing novel We Need To Talk About Kevin.
Sunday, June 17, 2007
Catch Up
Anyway. It's been a busy week with work but my health seems to have been OK generally - some days have more trips to the toilet than others or I'm a bit more sore but all manageable.
Nice to get an email from Ian my Cancer Voice. He was really helpful when I was deciding about chemo. I think I might find out about becoming one myself - it feels like there has to come a point when one feels that cancer is more er.. behind you than in front, if you see what I mean.
Sunday, June 10, 2007
Pacing
In one way, it's really frustrating - I hate it that it all looks so untidy and I feel like I'm letting things slip.
But I am NOT going to mess this up now by being silly. So the lawn will have to wait - along with the rest of the weeds.
Saturday, June 09, 2007
Exhibition
Friday, June 08, 2007
Latitude
Loads to do this weekend. Putting the exhibition up tomorrow morning and then my Intermediate Documentary Film Course starts in the afternoon. Busy Busy.
My tummy's been upset for a few days - not sure what that's about. Manageable - but I wish it wasn't happening.
But heh! Now there's Latitude! J asked me today if I'd like to go with her. Like a shot!
Thursday, June 07, 2007
Race For Life
Monday, June 04, 2007
Sunday, June 03, 2007
Cheers!
We had a great time in Newcastle. Shopping. A posh drink ( or two) . Dinner. Hotel. Culture.
It was really nice just to chill together. And laugh.
I'm feeling good at the moment.
Friday, June 01, 2007
End of the week....
I hada low point last night when I got back from London - tiredness really I think - but I've been OK today. Work has been steady but not frantic and healthwise I'm fine - nothing special to report at all really.
J is over in the morning. It's her birthday on Monday so we're spending the weekend together in Newcastle as a treat. A chance to chill - and I suspect there'll be Big Dinners and Shopping too.
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
Routine
He took blood today to test my CEA markers ( they were fine last time) - my next routine investigation will be a colonoscopy in July (picolax again!) and then another appointment with him in the autumn. ( Oh - and he says that aspirin is a good idea)
It's going to be this sort of routine for the next four years. That's OK - but I always feel low after these visits. It's the feeling of being snared I think.
Monday, May 28, 2007
Awaydays
I drove back via J's last night nd we had a great afternoon sorting technology. Then a pub meal and DVD. Today I had to put Alfie back in the kennels as I'm away with work a couple of times this week : (
The other main highlight this week is my check up with Mr Bain on Wednesday. I've got a few questions to ask but generally I think he'll be pleased how things are going.
Thursday, May 24, 2007
Good to be home
But of course, I also met up with J in London and we had a great night seeing The National and a bit of time on Oxford Street before I had to go into work on Wednesday morning. That made it all worth while.
And today I was up early working so that I could pick up Alfie from the kennels when they opened. Going to see my mum in Hereford this weekend so I want to leave at lunchtime tomorrow - that's meant a harder work day but worth it.
Tonight out for a nice meal with S & A to celebrate my photo sale.
Monday, May 21, 2007
Back
I've been feeling quite nervous all day about the trip to Birmingham and London tomorrow. I'm sure it'll be fine. And I get to see J in London tomorrow night as we've got tickets to see The National.
Sunday, May 20, 2007
Sold!
J over last night - a lovely evening catching up and watching DVDs. And today I'm trying to forget that work begins again tomorrow - my first trip away on Tuesday for five weeks - Birmingham and London.
Still feeling pretty good in myself and desperately trying to resist the temptation to do too much...
Friday, May 18, 2007
End Of The Week...
But actually it has felt good to be back working - to be proactive. Not that it's been easy - why is it you always remember the good bits with work and forget that most of it is routine hijacked by moments of blind panic - and, if you're lucky, occasional illumination?
Healthwise things are better - I can go huge stretches of the day and forget completely about the scar - and Alfie and I have done a two mile walk every day bar one for the last eighteen days. So I am getting better finally. That feels good to say.
And now it's Friday evening, I've had my kebab, I'm on my second beer and World of Warcraft beckons. ( Level 27 might even be possible tonight)
Tuesday, May 15, 2007
Sunday, May 13, 2007
Bump
I'm going to start back to work properly tomorrow - working from home Monday and Tuesday and a there-and-back to Essex on Wednesday. See how I go.
I know I'm not fully sorted yet, but things are much much better and I think I can be sensible enough to pull back if I feel it's too much. (Yeah.... ed)
Feels a bit scary though - like there's a small bump in the road ahead. Easy really - but just a chance I could trip over it.
Saturday, May 12, 2007
At The Bottom Of Everything
Regular readers will know that music is and has been really important to me throughout this whole thing but that every now and again I come across a song that really says something to me. This is one of those - from the magnificent Bright Eyes:
So there was this woman and
she was on an airplane and
she's flying to meet her fiancé
sailing high above the largest ocean
on planet earth and she was seated
next to this man who you know
she had tried to start conversation with
but really the only thing
she heard him say was to order his bloody mary
and she's sitting there and she's reading
this really arduous magazine article about this
third world country that she couldn't
even pronounce the name of and
she's feeling very bored and very despondent
and then suddenly there's this huge mechanical failure and one of the engines gave out
and they started just falling thirty thousand feet
and the pilots on the microphone and he's saying,
"I'm sorry, I'm sorry, Oh My God, I'm Sorry"
and apologizing and she looks at the man and she says,
"Where are we going?" and he looks at her and he says,
"We're going to a party, it's a birthday party.
It's your birthday party, happy birthday darling.
We love you very, very, very, very, very, very, very much."
And then he starts humming this little tune and it kind of goes like this:
One, Two, One, Two, Three, Four
We must talk in every telephone, get eaten off the web
We must rip out all the epilogues from the books we have read
And to the face of every criminal strapped firmly to a chair
We must stare, we must stare, we must stare.
We must take all of the medicines too expensive now to sell
Set fire to the preacher who is promising us hell
And in the ear of every anarchist that sleeps but doesn't dream
We must sing, we must sing, we must sing.
And it'll go like this
While my mother waters plants my father loads his gun.
He says, "Death will give us back to God,
just like the setting sun
is returned to the lonesome ocean."
And then they splashed into the deep blue sea.
It was a wonderful splash.
We must blend into the choir, sing as static with the whole,
We must memorize nine numbers and deny we have a soul,
And to this endless race for property and privilege to be won
We must run, we must run, we must run.
We must hang up in the belfry where the bats in moonlight laugh
We must stare into a crystal ball and only see the past
And in the caverns of tomorrow with our flashlights and our love
We must plunge, we must plunge, we must plunge.
And then we'll get down there,
way down to the very bottom of everything
and then we'll see it, oh we'll see it, we'll see it, we'll see it.
Oh my morning's coming back
The whole world's waking up
Oh the city bus is swimming past.
I'm happy just because
I found out I am really no one.
Friday, May 11, 2007
Wednesday, May 09, 2007
Moving Forward
And I'm beginning to think about moving! I've been here three and a half years now and although I love the house, the village isn't so great. I don't always feel entirely safe when I'm out and about, there's no good pub in walking distance and I just want to be more in Durham.
So I'm on the lookout for a house. I saw this one yesterday - it's the sort of thing I'm after I think. Will see the building society this week to see how much I can afford.
Monday, May 07, 2007
Footloose
I'm so glad I did. The sun came out, I picked up my pace and walked a full two miles - trying just to gently stretch a little. It really worked - I've come home now feeling a good deal less sore, more flexible and definitely better in myself.
Sunday, May 06, 2007
Not Easy
But this time I have to wait, be slow. Take it easy.
Easy is hard, you know...
Pictures at an Exhibition
A nice morning with S & A putting the paintings, prints and photos up at the Botanic Gardens where they'll be for the next fortnight.
They were great with helping me with the lifting - all I had to do was buy the tea!
Feeling pretty good today - the soreness is still there but it's not worrying and I can get about OK.
And a Bank Holiday tomorrow! ( Hey - you're off sick anyway! - ed)
Thursday, May 03, 2007
One Step Back
He says that everything seems fine but it's all still very swollen under the surface so he's not surprised it's sore. He strongly advised me against travelling ( it's the bag carrying really he says) and has signed me off work for another week.
Of course it's sensible and I'll do as I'm told. But it's also very frustrating and I can't help feeling I'm letting people down. But that's just me I suppose.
Tuesday, May 01, 2007
Levelling...
But levelling seems to be a theme so far this week. I'm taking it very easy this week - just checking and sorting emails. No trips away ( Alfie is delighted) and just concentrating on getting better. It was a good day yesterday but last night I slept on my side and woke up very sore. ( This morning it feels like I've been kicked!) Nothing serious but it does show me how careful I have to continue to be. ( Reminder to self: Op was only two weeks ago today...)
Sunday, April 29, 2007
Walkies II
I'm going to start work again ( from home ) tomorrow - see how I get on. There's the option of a day trip to Birmingham on Wednesday but I'll see how I'm doing before committing to that.
Saturday, April 28, 2007
Walkies
Picked Alfie up rom the kennels this morning - he was pleased to see me but I could tell I'd left him too long. Took ages for him to calm down. But we went for our ( and my ) first long walk for two weeks this afternoon. I took it slowly and it was great to be out in the sunshine, but I was very tired when I got back.
Taking it easy for the rest of the day.
Friday, April 27, 2007
Stitchless!
I was going to pick up Alfie from the kennnels today but I think I'll get used to my stitchless state first ( maybe try a walk on my own this afternoon) and pick him up in the morning. ( It's less him pulling on the lead that I'm worried about, than him jumping up.)
Sunny day here.
Wednesday, April 25, 2007
The Road to Recovery
But I know me - this is the time to really take it easy....
One other thing - I subscribe to quite a few blogs and other feeds ( all hail Google Reader!) but I've cut down on the number of cancer-related ones for obvious reasons. One of the ones I've kept on is Leroy Sievers. He posted this yesterday. It's absolutely spot on and just how I feel.
Tuesday, April 24, 2007
Music
That said, I'm taking it easy during the day - reading and a bit of WOW ( Level 16 now!) - oh, and music. Thank goodness for music.
Monday, April 23, 2007
Start of the week
I also hoped to get to Newcastle at the weekend to see my part of the quivr quilt but it was just too much. Looks like it all went well... Want to try again to get there myself later in the week if I can.
So a quiet weekend as you might expect - J came over and we did geeky stuff in the afternoon and watched the beginning of two films before my antibiotics kicked in and I had to go to bed. ( No -one can quite tell me what I've been given them for but they make me feel cr*p. Another bad night last night - but I took the last one this morning thanks goodness.)
On Sunday the nurse came over. She took the dressing off and checked things - all is fine so no more dressing needed. Stitches out on Friday.
And so it's Monday morning and I'm still a bit more sore than I thought I'd be. Amazing to me that it's less than week since my op - it feels like longer (and to your readers - ed) .This week coming am going to try and take it easy - no work for a few days more yet - but I'll ring them later today to make contact.
Sunday, April 22, 2007
Surf & Turf - an unashamed plug...
Exhibition of paintings, prints and photography inspired by coast & garden
Sandra Haney & Simon James
6-19 May 2007
Durham Botanic Garden
South Road Durham
Friday, April 20, 2007
Good Morning!
For me, another quiet day - and er... a shave....